No words here these days and weeks. It has been a time of listening, of uncertainty, and sometimes it is best to remain silent. Keats spoke of negative capability, and psychoanalysis has made a virtue of being able to hold one’s words in the face of not knowing. But a time comes when something has to be said. To be offered. Doubts prevail, but as one of my Catalan psychoanalytic tutors used to say: “S’ha de dir.” You must say it.
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For Maria
Two hands, 85 and 88.
First entwined in ’55,
they’re at it still,
holding on
and holding out
against an imminent farewell.
Not long now,
she knows,
unknows,
until her hand will close
around his absence,
seeking still
that wordless love
to see her through the days.
Walking in Mind 